“Only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile.
~Albert Einstein

Used to be a time when the phrase, ‘just being neighborly’ was the norm. It was believed that it took a village to raise a child, but these days of selfishness and disrespect make even the idea of being civil to another human, foreign. I do not subscribe to the notion that people are basically good. Rather I believe people are largely motivated to do good or bad, right or wrong based on their own motives.

Why do we do good? Maybe doing good makes us feel good inside. It gives us a sense of pride or perhaps just a ‘good feeling’ inside. Is that so wrong? No. People do wrong for the same reasons. It makes them feel good. In a society that no longer teaches their children to respect others and as important, themselves; what else would one expect? Most of what we do through life is self-ish. From eating, to bathing, to making friends.

We have friends because of our own need to be not alone. Again, nothing is wrong with that. However, I think the time has come again to do for others the same we would want done for us. Actually it is long overdue. Terms like random acts of kindness or paying it forward only have a place in our vocabulary because we have forgotten to do what is right in the first place.

In today’s economy especially, we should be automatically looking after others in need even if our own need is great. Whether you believe in reaping what you sow or karma, things do have a way of coming full circle. If you do right, right comes back to you.


I am not chastising anyone. The storms that come into our lives can change our course even without us realizing it. It’s not until the end of our journey that we have realized we reached the wrong destination. Additionally, most people don’t announce to the world that they have a need or problem that needs to be met. How can we help someone not asking for it?

Hey, what about doing something for someone, just because? Just because at this time in your life, you can. Save worrying about tomorrow for tomorrow.

Just a few examples:

1. You are at home. You’re feeling lonely. Instead of sitting in front of the television watching the same On Demand show for the third time, make a pot of coffee, grab the donuts and visit the widow down the street feeling lonely too. Even if she’s not lonely, she’d welcome the company and you aren’t lonely anymore either.

2. Male or female, hold the door open for someone. Regardless of their gender holding the door open for another person is just basic courtesy. It’s a small thing to you but it might mean a world of difference to that person.

3. Finally, practice controlling you speech. Your tongue is a weapon and people use it everyday to hurt and even kill others. Since we have no idea what the words coming out of our mouth will affect the person they are directed at, we should always be cognizant of our speech. We can never take back the words we say. Once they are out they are there in the persons mind forever and no apology in the world can make somebody forget the pain your words may have caused them. Consider a cruise ship or an aircraft carrier. Very large ships. Humongous vessels yet the are controlled by a very small rudder. Your tongue is your rudder. Steer clear of hurtful words and speak positively.

One more thing. If a family member needs to borrow some money from you and you are in the financial position to help. Don’t let them borrow it. If they are family just do the right thing and give it to them. No strings attached. If they can pay you back they will. If not, forget about it. Friendships are a different story. Unless you are a bank or you are Bill Gates, I would definitely make it a loan. This again, like this article is just Tom’s opinion.

…Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these.

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  1. #1 by lusysunsetgirl on October 16, 2010 - 10:27 AM

    I guess it’s true that we can’t judge a blog by its title. I have looked around, read your ‘about’ pages and even checked your first posts. I like what I see.

    As for this post, I can’t agree more with the fact that people do both good and bad things because those things made them feel good. Doing something because it’s the right thing to do is a challenge but it’s well worth the effort. Thank you!

    I don’t have a blogroll so I will subscribe to your feed. Have a nice weekend!

    • #2 by Tom Baker on October 16, 2010 - 11:43 AM

      Thanks for coming by but I didn’t want you to think I added you to my blogroll so that you would add me to yours. I really enjoyed your photography!! Thanks for taking a look around. The name has turned quite a bit of people off and away but I like it. I would really like you to read The Most Beautiful Girl In The World even if you don’t read any other post. Have a great weekend Lusy.

  2. #3 by Dan on October 20, 2009 - 8:56 AM

    “It was believed that it took a village to raise a child”

    This is one of the more central reasons behind the current state of empathy. Living in a community, we relied upon the kindness of others just as they depended upon ours. Being rude, greedy, or selfish would only have ostracized you, to the great detriment of your own well-being. In fact, it is in this type of community that the very concept of morals and mores arose over the course of human evolution.

    These days the norms are changing from reliance on the community to independence and self-sufficiency. As our community extends from one-acre villages to immense cities and information networks, we have much less incentive to be kind to people we may not see more than once every few weeks. Even less incentive when we don’t apparently rely upon them for any sort of help. As such we begin to forget, as you said, the impact our actions can have on others. While there is nothing inherently wrong with independence, one should constantly remind himself that your lifestyle exists but for the actions and efforts of everyone within the community, no matter what scale.

  3. #4 by Stefon on October 2, 2009 - 2:26 PM

    Good analogy about the tongue. Not at all what I expected from a Morning Erection blog.

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