Comment Love: With Great Blogs Comes Great Responsibility…

With a great blog comes great responsibility… Whether you are graced with many visitors to your site or just a few per week, common sense dictates that you want those visitors to then comment on what you wrote (what they read). Honestly when I see that I have had 100 visitors a lot of whom have sites that I left comments on, and I get no comments myself, I have to wonder.

Why didn’t they return the luv? Does today’s post suck so much that not one out of 100 people in a 24 hour period could leave a comment? In addition, I have the unique problem of the name I gave my blog. Maybe people don’t want to associate their name or their blog with a morning erection. That could be true yet they don’t delete my comment that I left on their site.

On the other hand what if I did manage to get every visitor that came to my site to leave a comment. Do I have the time to respond to each and every person? Assuming that the comment was meaningful and not just ‘great post’, as the owner of the blog I am obligated to not be rude, and either reply to their comment or visit their site and leave a comment on one of their posts.

Not every person who leaves a comment on your site will have a post that you want to comment on. And then there are people like me who visit at least ten blogs a day just to leave comments so I can increase my page rank on Google. Even so, returning the gesture and commenting or replying to the comments you get is a necessity. You are building a network of links and a network of fellow bloggers that come to know your name, your blog’s name and whatever your site stands for.

People who see your comments on other blogs will visit your site. I get at least 10-15 visits from visitors to sites that I have visited. I don’t know how often you visit your dashboard or blog stats, but they have been very helpful to me.

I write all of this to say, I appreciate all that visit and leave comments. I appreciate all the visitors I get who don’t leave comments, however, I would appreciate you even more if you did comment.  On the other hand not everybody who leaves a comment expects to get a reply or response. Regardless of how you handle the problem, if someone is nice enough to take the time to visit your site AND leave a well thought out and meaningful comment, show the luv back. You will be surprised how traffic to your site will increase. Mine has.

I feel appreciated and a sense of accomplishment when someone else acknowledges what I chose to share. I have received 165 comments not including the 6 spam automatically killed by WordPress. As I’m writing this I just went to check the number of comments I’ve received since September 28th, and noticed I have another one from Tasha on my About Morning Erection page. Here is what she wrote.

first off, thanks for stopping by my blog and for posting a comment…I appreciate it :) secondly, I like the way you have worded this page…very well done. the title is unique and I have to say interesting. it sort of makes you stop for a moment, reread the title and then laugh to yourself. keeping in mind those less offended. afterall, a little sexual humor never hurt anyone, right?

keep it up and I will be following this interesting blog :)

What a timely comment. Yes, I did thank her for the comment and let her know she will be featured on this blog sometime in December when I schedule this post. Another way to generate more links to your site is to comment on blogs that use a feature called CommentLuv. This service leaves a link to your latest post in addition to the URL to your blog when you leave the comment. Visit here for an example and thanks for reading.

Let me just say that the example blog that I left a comment on (to the right), I don’t expect to be there if and when you visit her site. My blog’s name and my email address tend to make people delete my comments no matter how genuine the comment is.

I did receive a letter of thanks for a comment I posted on PhilosYphia. I don’t expect emails after I comment, but I did appreciate the courtesy:

This is just a small note from me to let you know how much I appreciate you leaving your first comment on my blog, PhilosYphia.   There is a billion different blogs out there and most are read without any commentary (if they are read at all), so I really appreciate it when someone bothers to come by, read an article, and leave a note.  It is great feedback and I really appreciate it.

Because I dislike spam, this is the last email you will get from me or my blog
(unless you subscribe to emailed updates, of course) — I just wanted to let you
know how much I appreciate you taking the time.


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  1. #1 by maidenfine on December 8, 2009 - 11:51 AM

    Well, I’m not usually much of a commenter. But I may have to change that. You’re absolutely right that a comment on someone else’s blog can get you traffic, since your comment on my blog is how I got here. That’s pretty much how the internet works, right? You start in one place, you follow a link that looks interesting, and then there’s another link that looks interesting, and so on until you end up someplace and you can’t even remember what you started out looking for.

    And, I have to admit, I did pause before accepting your comment on my blog. But it was actually your email, not the name of your blog, that made me stop. It’s very clever, but it also made me wonder if it was legitimate. My policy is that if your comment actually applies to the blog, and doesn’t have a link to some pharmaceuticals page or something, then it’s legit and gets approved. I don’t think I’ve ever not approved a comment.

    • #2 by Tom Baker on December 8, 2009 - 2:02 PM

      Four comments in one day… I think you are being modest when you say you aren’t much of a commenter. About my email address; I’m still a wee bit immature in some areas of my life. Thanks for stopping by.

  2. #3 by Chris on December 6, 2009 - 9:55 PM

    I fully admit that when I saw your blog name in my comment queue I had some thoughts about whether it was legit. Seeing that it was I found your site and have been enjoying getting caught up on all the archive posts.

    I don’t email commenters after their first comment on my site. However I try to make it a point to respond to any comments I have received. I haven’t had a lot so far, so it hasn’t been too overwhelming. I’m of the thought that if someone is going to take the time to read something I’ve written and then commented I can take a few minutes to respond back to them and spark some good conversation possibly.

    I think my luckiest string of comments was back when I wrote up a post on a show I really enjoyed called Kings. One of the actors in the show came across my blog and added some comments of his own that helped make things fun. I think it’s a matter of starting out small and once your network is built up things have a chance of taking off comment-wise. At least I hope thats how it works!

  3. #4 by Nathan Pralle on December 6, 2009 - 10:53 AM

    Well, when I first saw the name of your blog in my comment queue, I thought, “Well, now, there’s a curious name” and I had to check it out to make sure it was legit, of course, as I get plenty of spam about similar subjects. :) But I was happy that it was, indeed, genuine.

    I, like you, often wonder about why people don’t comment more. Mind you, I try to do as much as I can and often suck at it, sometimes because I simply have zero to contribute to the conversation, but more because I’m reading blogs in between doing work or something where I don’t have the brainpower to stop and whack out something that doesn’t look like a stupid blurt. But I try to bookmark and come back to those entries that I really think need my input. At least, I try.

    And, as you noticed, I try to fire an email off to every new commenter. Mind you, they all mostly look exactly the same, but I think it’s important to acknowledge those that bother, because so many don’t. Good luck to you and your blog, on my reader! :)

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