Being Romantic

I am a romantic being; at my very core, that is all I am. It’s why I enjoy JeLisa’s blog so much. Listening to the love and respect her and Galen have for one another. Even though April and I are romantic, April likes for me to leave our personal life out of the blog and I can respect that. This time is different. April told me I should blog about our day. I don’t know what makes Monday different from any other time, but I am thankful. Okay, April just told me she wants other wives to be treated the way I treat her. So I guess this post is for the husbands of the world.

Romance… It’s why I love cooking for April and rubbing her feet when she’s had a rough day (not at the same time). It’s why I love giving her a massage when she’s not expecting one but her body language suggests she needs one. It’s why I like listening to almost every word April speaks and I don’t mind doing the dishes. It’s why we waited until we were married for a physical relationship. Romance is in my heart and I never want to purposely take her for granted.

Saturday night I convinced April to play hooky Monday and enjoy a long weekend for a change.  I woke up early Monday and made her favorite breakfast and served it to her in bed. Fresh strawberries, waffles and fried eggs. After breakfast we showered together and I washed her from head to toe and didn’t get any shampoo in her eyes this time! I dried her off and dressed her. I proceeded to tell her that I had mapped out her morning and afternoon for her and all she had to do was follow the directions on the dashboard of her car. It was about 9:30 am when I kissed her goodbye and watched her back out of the garage.

On the dashboard was a series of mixed music CDs I made for her. The first one were some of her favorite love songs and the second was my favorites. The third, I kept with me for that night. Her instructions were to play the second one first and then the first. By the time she returned home she should have been able to listen to both CDs. First on her list was to pick up her friend Rochelle. Rochelle had the rest of the schedule for the day. Museum of Art, lunch at Ruth’s Chris Steak House and a 2:00 appointment for a pedicure and manicure.

Disc Three

While April was out I put my plans into action. I had been planning this for a few weeks now and without Rochelle’s help I don’t think I could have accomplished things just the way I wanted them to be. Thanks Rochelle.

It might not sound very romantic to be apart from one another, however, April works very hard and I wanted her to have some ‘me’ time. I called her every so often and told her I missed her, loved her, to look under the seat for the red rose I left her or after lunch to look in the glove compartment for a love note (not to be opened until she was getting her pedicure.

First thing I did was fix a picnic dinner as soon as she left. I made pasta salad and spicy barbecue shrimp, Chicken Parmesan sandwiches and some strawberry lemonade. For dessert I made lemon meringue pie. Then it was time to work on the backyard. I got bags of sand and poured it out on the backyard lawn, set up an umbrella and placed the stereo speakers out near the mound of sand. I placed the blanket and oils on the table and just waited for April to return. She got home around 4:45. I met her at the door with a smoothie. I undressed her and we took a shower together again.

After the shower she told me about her day and showed me the photos she took at the museum. I put in a movie and popped some popcorn. We watched the movie and then fell asleep until about 9:30 pm. I woke up and watched my wife sleep. She looked like an angel. I smiled and listened to her breathing as her chest rose and sand with each breath. I woke her up and asked if she was hungry. She was and it was finally getting dark enough to enjoy a night time picnic and the weather wasn’t so muggy.

I escorted her out to the picnic area, spread the blanket and turned on the music. The first song was It’s You That I Need by Enchantment. I left her there to listen to the words while I got dinner ready. When I came back I could tell she had been crying. She loved the lyrics and I told her I’ve always felt that way about her — even before we met.

We ate, talked and I gave her a massage. We talked some more and danced, laughed and chased each other around the backyard. We made love and drank champagne.

Our backyard has very tall bushes and the homes in our neighborhood are spaced far apart so being naked in the backyard is something we always do, but for some reason it seemed to April that we were being watched so we went inside, rinsed the sand off and fell asleep in each others arms. While I was cleaning up the sand Tuesday afternoon I found a Frisbee stuck in one of the bushes. We might have been watched…




1. Place the needs and wants of your spouse above yours. (Offer to give a massage without expecting the favor in return)
2. Think outside of the box. (Instead of going out to dinner, prepare the meal together or cook for your spouse)
3. Romance doesn’t mean spending lots of money. (Renting a DVD, drinking Pepsi in champagne glasses with a huge bowl of buttered popcorn)
4. Figure out what the two of you like to do together. (Maybe it’s bike riding or long walks)
5. Romance starts when you wake up and not just ten minutes before having sex. (Spend some time cuddling before you rush about your daily living)
6. A woman’s idea of romance is different from a man’s. (Men you might be at your sexiest in her mind if you take the trash out without being asked)


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  1. #1 by nenskei on August 6, 2012 - 12:35 AM

    I love the green rose just so perfect!

  2. #2 by chica on October 28, 2010 - 8:46 AM

    OH WOW OH WOW…. i did not know that this happen in Real life!!! you guys are very blessed. keep it up. well done

    • #3 by Tom Baker on October 29, 2010 - 4:51 PM

      Thanks Chica. I enjoyed doing it and she relished in receiving it!

  3. #4 by Connie on September 7, 2010 - 10:41 AM

    Tom it sounds like the perfect afternoon and night time. I would love a day like that even if I was by myself. I could go to the spa, get some take out and lay out by the pool. I would prefer a husband though!!!

    • #5 by Tom Baker on September 7, 2010 - 10:56 AM

      I can see a person treating themself to a great day. Some people are in a relationship and will never get the attention they deserve. Whether in a relationship or not, pamper yourself at least 4 times a year with the seasons.

  4. #6 by {JeLisa} @ Blogging Ever After on August 27, 2010 - 10:48 AM

    Very sweet. :) Love the romance tips!

  5. #8 by Judy on August 26, 2010 - 3:26 PM

    Beautiful photos! April surely is a wonderful person to deserve a guy like you. I like tip #6. I remember watching some comedy on TV and the wife came into the kitchen and her husband was doing the dishes. She said, you have never looked sexier. Funny but I don’t know what show it was. I really missed alot by not visiting regularly. I’ll be back to see what you do next. Bye guys!

    • #9 by Tom Baker on August 27, 2010 - 1:33 PM

      It really is true. What men find sexy and what women find sexy sometimes are polar opposites.

  6. #10 by sybianuser on August 20, 2010 - 1:33 PM

    I’m from Indiana too. I just started blogging this morning so I’m stumbling my way around WordPress. My husband James is romantic too. This sounds like the perfect day except you didn’t get to spend the whole day together. I would love a copy of the CDs you made. I’m going to send my husband here to read this. Stop by my new site please.

    • #11 by Tom Baker on August 21, 2010 - 3:55 PM

      Thanks for liking the post. Welcome to blogging and thanks for stopping by my site on your first day. There are lots of romantic guys. I can supply you with a list of the songs I put on the CD #3 for April and I will be by your blog soon.

      Sensuality Personified
      Disc 3

      It’s You That I Need – Enchantment
      You’re Makin’ Me High – Toni Braxton
      Share My World – DeBarge
      I Want To Be Love – Eric Benet
      You Bring Me Joy – Anita Baker
      Sensuality – The Isley Brothers

      This isn’t the computer I used to make the CDs but these are the songs I know I put on them. Sorry I couldn’t give you a more complete list. Come by again.

  7. #12 by Jia on August 20, 2010 - 9:04 AM

    Great post. (almost took my heart away) AHEM. If it’s true (what you have said), then you are such a rare, fine guy! April must be very lucky to have you. I wish you and April well and happy. :) Take care!

    • #13 by Tom Baker on August 21, 2010 - 3:31 PM

      Thanks Jia — of course it’s all true but it is I who is the lucky one. April is the greatest and the best thing about my life.

  8. #14 by vee15 on August 19, 2010 - 2:59 PM

    That was so cute! :) I love that you cooked for April and planned her afternoon. Glad you enjoy my cousin’s marriage! :) I hope to have a marriage like hers, and a husband like you lol. Even though I planned not to get married but if it’s God’s plan then hey.

    • #15 by Tom Baker on August 19, 2010 - 8:28 PM

      Thank you Vee. I love cooking for anyone but especially for April. I hope you find a husband much better than I.

  9. #16 by Auburn on August 19, 2010 - 2:21 PM

    This is truly amazing. I pray your love for each other continues. I for one would love to read the letter you wrote to your wife.

    I came here because a friend told me about your Experience Project post. I am years from getting married but I really want a husband to treat me like this because I will treat him this way too. I’m inspired by your romantic day. You are a rare male specimen. April hang on to Tom.

    • #17 by Tom Baker on August 19, 2010 - 10:35 PM

      The letters I write to April are ones that I call 2Sexy letters meant only for her eyes. They usually involve some kind of sexual fantasy or scenario about us and a poem that I wrote. Sorry but the contents are classified: For Her Eyes Only!

  10. #18 by cursemymetalbody on August 19, 2010 - 12:42 PM

    Wow – that sounds like an amazing day, your wife sure is lucky! I’m such a sap for things like this, and it honestly brought a few tears to my eyes.

    On another note, I love the title of your blog, and now I’m very very interested to back-track and read the rest of your posts! I’ll try not to overwhelm your comment boxes!

    • #19 by Tom Baker on August 19, 2010 - 12:47 PM

      Being overwhelmed by comments is a good thing. Thanks for dropping by Cheryl. You teared up too? Must be a girl thing. Be aware – there are a few posts the ladies try to avoid…

  11. #20 by Miss Busy Bee on August 19, 2010 - 10:13 AM

    You are the man of every woman’s dream! Haha seriously. Every guy I heard about – from my friend’s husbands or boyfriends – never do these things for their partners. (But then again, they may only be complaining about the bad things, and not remembering the good things, like most girls…). But I see that in most relationships, one or the other expects the other person to do all the work. I don’t see a relationship as taking turns to do nice things for each other. If you wanted to be treated right, you gotta treat the other person right too. Thanks for this post. It made me smile!

    • #21 by Tom Baker on August 19, 2010 - 10:26 AM

      You have a pretty smile so keep on smiling. You’re right. Lots of people only remember the good times when it no longer matters (a breakup or a funeral) but we have to always keep the good upfront and the bad behind. The good times are usually when things are fine and no one is arguing or mad so we take the good times for granted. The bad times can hurt and scar us so there is always a reminder of the pain BUT life is too short to worry about the bad things. Love, compassion, understanding and respect are the keys to every relationship from strangers to lovers. (IMHO)

  12. #22 by Glenn on August 19, 2010 - 9:54 AM

    Congratulations man. It appears April or any woman would have loved the day. I’m happy she is healthy again.

  13. #23 by Jewel on August 19, 2010 - 3:50 AM

    I read your comment on JeLisa’s blog and had to come see what you did for your wife. This was special and I’m sure April appreciated it all. First of all I would love to climb out of bed and have already eaten and then to be bathed like a queen or some royalty. You are a romantic guy. Your blog has a great title too.

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