Guest Blogger, Galen Sterling-Smith

Introducing Galen Sterling-Smith from KVGess’ Blog

Welcome Galen Sterling-Smith, to Morning Erection as the November guest blogger. Galen’s blog gives Advice You Don’t Want To Hear But Need to, form a Christian perspective. I’ve enjoyed reading his posts and I’m sure you will to but first things first, his guest post! As always, Galen’s guest post here means he has taken time away from his own blog and spent time thinking of this great post for us. It is a great honor for me to be able to have a guest blogger so as a favor to me please show Galen the courtesy of leaving lots of comments and be sure to visit his site as well. Thanks.

I am amazed at the person my little brother has become. He’s 15 years old and 11 years my junior. He grew up in a different house than I did due to the fact that we share a father but not mothers. He grew up in a two parent household, I grew up in a 1.5 parent household. This is no slight to my stepfather who is an awesome man, but nothing replaces the presence of the man who is literally half of who you are.

I’d see my brother only in summers and on holidays when he was younger and I enjoyed our brief times together; knowing full well they weren’t long enough and constantly fearing that he wouldn’t know anything about me or who I was.

Then in college I moved in with my dad to save money and was able to see my brother a lot more often.

Every Sunday I’d head out to church by myself, sometimes taking my brother along with me just for kicks – or so I thought. As he grew up, I’d say he had a basic understanding of God and faith, but I wasn’t sure how strong or solid it was.

A few years later (I’m not sure how old he was, but he was older, lol) he’d make his decision about faith and it really surprised me what motivated him to make his choice.

It was, in part, me…

The reason this surprised me was for all the reasons listed above–I didn’t see him that often and I didn’t think he was really paying all that much attention to me. The reason I thought this was because I didn’t think very much of myself. I didn’t think I was worth listening to or being paid attention to. However, my brother saw something of value in me. My brother used me as a model for the kind of person he wanted to be.

Lately, people have been asking me for advice or commentary on my marriage and relationship with my wife. Some are surprised at “how good a husband [I am].” Really, I’m surprised that they’re surprised because, again, I don’t feel like I’m doing anything worth mentioning or paying attention to. I just do what I do because I feel it’s the right thing to do.

However, this brings up my point–I think what I’m doing is no big deal, but to somebody else, it is. This really puts into perspective the idea of watching your character and actions because you NEVER know who is watching you.

I imagine parents would know what I’m talking about. Children are mimics at an early age. They learn how to function in the world by watching the people around them. Their good and bad habits are not always nature but their nurturing as well.

Whenever you’re a person of any kind of example, in my case an older brother and a Christian, I have to keep in mind that someone may be watching me at all times. This creates a bit of pressure to keep doing what’s right within the realm of my moral upbringing. I don’t have the opportunity or luxury of going against what I claim to stand for even for a second, because I don’t know who’s following in my example or waiting for me to mess up…

This helps me to stay on the straight and narrow because every time I’ve thought about straying from the path, someone, somewhere, somehow pops up and reminds me that there are eyes on me always.

So ask yourself, who’s watching you?



*November 7, 2010 tomorrow morning at 2:00 am Daylight Savings Time ends and you should turn your clocks back one hour. Yes, you gain an hour of sleep.

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  1. #1 by Valencia Monroe on November 11, 2010 - 10:55 PM

    My cousin Galen rocks for this post! :) and he’s totally right; never know who’s watching u. I truly believe he is one heck of guy because he is amazing in his own way, he is totally a gentelman and he is totally Gods son! :) love you Galen

    Love, your cousin Valencia! :)

  2. #2 by KVGess on November 9, 2010 - 12:40 PM

    Hey everybody,

    Thank you for your kind words and responses, :-)

    I’m glad my words are being met with such positive responses. Thank you for taking the time to read them, and Tom, thank you for allowing me to post on your site.

  3. #3 by Tom Baker on November 6, 2010 - 10:09 PM

    Thanks Galen. The photo goes great with your post. It’s strange that so many of us see so little in ourselves. We are all valuable. Great insight.

  4. #4 by Ava Aston's Muckery on November 6, 2010 - 6:19 PM

    That was a great post!

    Blessings to both you and your brother!


  5. #5 by Iron Cook Carl on November 6, 2010 - 4:04 PM

    Galen this is an excellent post. What would the world be like if even half of it’s population lived this way. Living at our best even behind closed doors when no one can see if we do right or wrong. In my life I always try to be at my best when my kids are around or when I’m in the company of others, but not always when I’m alone, even though I know God can still see me. Thanks I know my children are watching me like a hawk.

  6. #6 by Seth Winternight on November 6, 2010 - 3:20 PM

    A very intelligent and informative blog post. I’m sure we can all learn the lesson here. Plus as you’re getting older, you’re becoming wiser and more responsible and they’re good qualities which make you a better person. If anything, it’s taught me to stay on the path I think is right, and in time when i’m older, i’ll become a better person.

  7. #7 by Scent of my heart on November 6, 2010 - 1:22 PM

    So thoughtful guest post! You being a good influence to your brother, that’s something we should all take note on! All the best Galen!

  8. #8 by Cherlyn on November 6, 2010 - 11:21 AM

    A really great post Galen! Though I’m not a Christian and from a different type of family unit, I really appreciated this post – because often I find some people don’t consider how they act may influence someone else. It sounds like you’ve been a great influence on your brother, and you’ve been a very positive role model for him!

    A really great guest blog post – and I shall definitely take some time to check out your blog :)

  9. #9 by Scott K. Moore on November 6, 2010 - 10:59 AM

    Great post Galen. I’m the product of a one child family but I hope to be an example to someone someday.

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