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I’ve searched and searched but could not find the origin of this day. What I do know about Sneak A Kiss Day is nobody really needs a special day for kissing? Kissing is something that should be done every day, any day and for no other reason than because kissing is wonderful and showing your love through a kiss for friends, family and lovers is simply the right and proper thing to do. I dedicate this post to all my female visitors, followers and friends. Pucker up cause if I could, I would…
K I S S E R S W A N T E D:
Kissers Wanted. No experience necessary. Opportunities open to females only. Training proves many fringe benefits. Information from me, Tom, a registered philematologist.
Due to the comments and many emails from the Kissing Is Better Than Sex and The Tongues I Have Known And Loved posts I decided to do another post about kissing. I consider myself an expert on the subject and will try to articulate the nuances of great kissing.
Being a good kisser is a matter of patience and practice unless you just take to it the way birds do to flying. Is giving lessons really permitted? In this day and age is it safe? Can you really instruct someone in the culinary art of kissing without actually pressing lips and tongues together?
Teenage life of just kissing and petting was fantastic. Not everyone was interested in having sex and some people really did want to wait. Back fifteen years when I was growing up there were even teenage virgins. Shocking I know.
If we can recall those wonderful kissing sessions we used to have, without the mental clutter of the conquest we can take the first step to being great at the art of kissing. And making kissing a priority in our relationships. The good morning kiss and the ever popular goodbye kiss. Just as the painter needs his easel and canvas before he can start painting, the kisser needs their tools too – a mind free teenage clutter; of hoping to get into someone’s underwear and just concentrating on the here and now, as well as a clean mouth.
What I mean when I say teenage clutter is the garbage that kissing is the first stop on getting a home run or having sex. Kissing doesn’t have to be first base. Kissing doesn’t have to lead to something else or something better. Males and females alike have this mentality. Kissing is great all by itself.
What right do I have giving advice on kissing? Kissing is just like any other activity. Practice, practice and more practice will make you good at it. And admittedly, I have had enough practice to be qualified on the subject. A beautiful woman or a handsome guy that might like you is no insurance that that person is a good kisser and you might need to teach them yourself. On the other hand, if you are a good kisser, you might unknowingly, make the other person think they are a good kisser too because he/she is enjoying the kiss. In reality the complete opposite might be true.
A great teacher can teach without making their student know that they are doing something wrong.
Tips On Being A Great Kisser
1. First, come over to my house for personal instruction. Proceed to step 2- if unable to follow with step one. (April just punched me).
2. Try to always have clean breath. Flossing and brushing the teeth and tongue go a long way to keeping your breath clean all day long.
3. Be subtle but honest when approaching a bad kisser. Make them feel bad or too self conscious and they may shy away or feel that they are such a bad kisser that there might not be any help for them.
4. Keep your kissee guessing. Repeating the same motion without any variation makes your partner feel like they are kissing a robot. Use your tongue in creative ways.
5. Break up the tongue kissing with playful lip tugging or light biting of the upper or bottom lip.
6. Hold their face in your hands and kiss the forehead, the temples, cheeks, nose and prceed to the neck. Both men and women find that their neck is an erogenous area. A nibble on the ear lobe can be sensual as well.
7. Some people like to have their kisser’s tongue in their ears. Some don’t. You should ask before diving in and you should make sure they keep their ears free of wax. It doesn’t taste very good and when you return to the mouth they will be able to taste it too. (I’ve heard some people don’t mind the taste).
8. Touching and rubbing while kissing is essential. Leave the genitals and breasts alone. This is not about sex!
9. Concentrate on how you feel about the person you are kissing. Kissing can be so very personal and with your mind on her and her mind on you, the sky is the limit.
10. Try new things with the understanding that he/she will tell you if they like it or not and when and if to stop. For an example, I once kisses a girl who was so rough that she would suck on my tongue so hard that I thought the skin that keeps your tongue attached to the bottom of my mouth was going to tear. At one point more of my tongue was in her mouth than in mine. My tongue was sore for three days!
11. Kisses should never be too wet. Remember kissing should be enjoyable and not a survival lesson in drowning. Kissing produces a lot of saliva and you need to swallow frequently. I have found that lots of people don’t. I have over the years found a way to swallow my saliva and remove their saliva from their mouth as well without their knowledge.
12. Breathing can get very heavy because kissing is very erotic and you will find yourself extremely turned on. If you are worried that your hot breath from your nose might be bothering your partner, ask. I myself, find that feeling her breath, and listening to her breath, gets me even more excited.
13. Kissing is sufficient all by itself, however, kissing can also be the only foreplay needed before sex. A great kissing session will/can get your female partner significantly lubricated and ready for intercourse. I submit to you that as a man, if you can stand it, leave her wanting more and resist the temptation to have sex with your lady. She will look forward to your next kissing session with bated breath.
14. Go for it!!!!
Whether you are new to kissing or if you are a couple that has been married for years, you will find following these tips can add spice to your romantic life and you need not think kissing will lead to sex. Kissing alone is sexy enough!
(continued from yesterday’s post, Kissing Is Better Than Sex?)
An excerpt from an article by V. S. Arunraj
In the most tempting and luscious kiss the woman or man has ever know, the French kiss is an imaginative blend of passionate erotica and sexy love. In the French Kiss, the tongue has an important role to play. The French Kiss has the lips playing secondary role to the tongue.
In the French Kiss, the lips has to be parted slightly. During the kiss, your tongue should slip into the woman’s mouth or vice-versa. It is important that in the French Kiss, you do not keep the tongue limp and stiff. Play with her tongue-push her tongue with yours or circle her the roof and inside area of her mouth with your tongue.
I’m not an expert on kissing (although I did stay at a Holiday Inn last night). I am, however an expert at knowing what I like and I likes me some kissing. Here are a few of the tongues that I have known and loved including my very first french kiss. The names have not been changed to protect the innocent:
Felicia’s tongue: (forceful) – I was nine, she was eight years my senior and only kissed me when no one else was around. I tried to avoided her at all costs. And you thought all molesters were male.
Denise’s tongue: (grotesque) – Denise and Felicia were friends. She was always smelling of cigarettes and alcohol and to me that was disgusting. Two female child molesters. Actually I don’t consider them molesters. They did take advantage of an impressionable child and they both shovee their tongues down my throat, but for the record, they never touched me sexually.
Jaclyn’s tongue: (intrusive but welcomed) – I was ten and she was the neighbor’s niece up for the summer to babysit our neighbor’s three children. French kissing became enjoyable with this girl. She was seventeen years old and even though she took advantage of me, I liked it. She was prettier and because she was around the entire summer she wasn’t as hurried or forceful and she didn’t drink or smoke. She let me see her breasts too. Kissing Jaclyn is where I learned quite quickly how sensual and exciting kissing could be. I recently learned from our neighbor that she died from cancer a few years ago.
Katie’s tongue: (inexperienced) – This is a girl who I played doctor with at least once a week. Most often up in my tree house we would disrobe and show me/show you. I once kissed her and asked if I could show her something. We kissed but she didn’t really want to move her tongue around. I don’t think she liked it and from my experience with Felicia, I fully understood.
Myra’s tongue: (young) – Jaclyn’s cousin. It happened at Jaclyn’s prompting to see her cousin kiss me after she had done it. It happened at the end of the summer. Myra was two years younger than I but she was a good kisser and I remember the peppermint spin wheel candy taste in her mouth.
Jasmine’s tongue: (stiff) – A classmate of mine in Mrs. Ditmars’ class. She had a small crush on me. The two of us volunteered to help Mrs. Ditmars decorate the classroom walls. Walking home we stopped to pick a few crab apples to throw at passing cars. It was getting dark and getting cold. I asked her if I could kiss her and she nodded yes. Our lips met and then my tongue parted her lips and we kissed. She had no idea what I was doing and kept her tongue hard and stiff.
Daemi’s tongue: (sweet) – My first interracial kiss. Dae was Korean and her breath was always sweet. She never had bad breath. We became close friends and stayed kissing buddies all throughout high school. No one was the wiser.
Becky’s tongue: (tender) – Becky was a cute brunette who went to the same church that I went to on the Saturdays I spent with my aunt. My aunt had a cleaning service and she cleaned the church on Saturdays. I had to go with my aunt whenever I was over. While my aunt and Becky’s mother cleaned up we would play together in one fo the rooms. It took some courage because this was a girl whom I really didn’t know, however I got the courage to gradually lead up to kiss her. Because she didn’t run to her mom I felt comfortable moving forward with frenching. After schooling Becky on the technique of French kissing we spent lots of Sundays exploring each others mouths. We are still friends today.
TEENAGE PRE-COLLEGE YEARS
Renee’s tongue: (intoxicating) – I lost my mind each and every time we kissed. Renee is where I learned more intensely how intimate kissing is. An evening spent with Renee and I was transported into her mind and body. I closed my eyes, and was lost in nothing more than thoughts of Renee. We were one. I fell in love with Renee and was so sure she would be my wife one day. It was not meant to be but we were together on and off again until she finished college.
Allison’s tongue: (serious) – Kissing Alli was kind of sterile. It was more of a job kissing her because she took it so serious. She enjoyed kissing and wanted to make an art of it, but sometimes when you concentrate so much on something, it becomes stiff and mechanical. That’s it; It was as close to kissing an android as you could get when I kissed Alli. Sweet girl though.
Asia’s tongue: (mysterious) – Asia is her name but she wanted to be called by her middle name, Shannon. Shannon was very creative and I never knew what to expect with her. I have to give her thanks because she was the one who spread it among the girls at school what an expert kisser I was. It was a strange thing to have girls you don’t even know come up to you in school and ask to be kissed. Asia Shannon, again I must say thanks. Thanks.
Tina or Lena’s tongue: (powerful) – Twins who I kissed in the shallow end of a high school pool party. To this day I don’t know which one I kissed or if I got to kiss both of them. Alcohol was involved. What I do remember is when I put my tongue inside her mouth I felt a suction on my tongue. It felt like she was trying to suck my tongue right out of my mouth. I was sore for days.
Dianna, Donna, Shelley, Amy, Valerie and Linda’s tongues: (varied) – These are all the girls I got to kiss playing spin the bottle at a family and friends weekend college party. What was exciting about this game is that although not twins, Dianna and Donna were sisters and Amy and Valerie were cousins but perhaps more interesting for me is I was still a junior in high school.
Tiffany’s tongue: (snake-like) – A relative of my next door neighbors. She caught my show one night and the next day there was a knock on my door. I invited her and the other two from next door over and we went swimming. I got to kiss Tiffany several times while playing games in the pool. I really thought I would get to kiss all three but the Angela and Jacqueline were too shy or too scared.
COLLEGE AND ADULT YEARS
Illana tongue: (nicotine free) – A co-worker in training class for an insurance company we wanted to work for. I told her what a good kisser I was and she was interested in having me prove it. Told her she had to be tobacco free for a week before I would even consider kissing a cigarette smoker. She complied and we spent a couple of hours on her parents couch engaged in heavy petting. I believe she was convinced.
Jacqueline’s tongue: (warm) – When healthy we all should be about 98.6 degrees so we are all moist and warm on the inside. Kissing Jackie was hot. Her mouth was hot not warm and that was exciting. Kissing her was like night and day compared to other girls. I compare it to getting in a hot tub compared to taking a bath. One day Jackie was in pain and I offered to give her a massage. She sat in the chair and I worked on her shoulders and neck until the kinks were out. She was happy and paid me with kisses.
Missy’s tongue: (strong) – Missy was my girlfriend but the relationship ended after several months. She actually left me because I would not have sex with her. She was a demanding kisser. Her tongue was larger and stronger than mine and almost seemed like I was kissing a man cause she led. I always led for the most part. Not with Missy. She was a little tomboy-ish but not masculine. Nonetheless, she had to lead in kissing. I still led in dancing.
April’s tongue: (angelic) – My current girlfriend. Her kisses are soft and gentle. Her tongue caresses my mouth like the tail-end of a wave as it fades into the sands. She made me write that. No, seriously, she is one of the best kissers I’ve known. I am thoroughly pleased. Since we aren’t sexually active believe me her kisses are more than enough!
This concludes today’s revelation about Tom. In all honesty though, this only represents a portion of my kissing history. Perhaps at a later time I will revisit this subject and confess the remainder of the list. On second thought I’ll be married and perhaps I should let the past be the past (or just not be so vivid in my descriptions)!
Kissing, A Love Poem
We start to close our eyes
We start to part our lips
I can see your moist lips glisten
Our lips meet, our tongues touch
Eyes closed, thoughts open
Kissing you ever so tender
We feel the warmth of each others breath
On our cheeks from our nostrils
I drink you in
Feeling your warmth
Tasting your sweet feminine aromas
I drink from your fountain and swallow
I hear your heart beating or is it mine
Kissing every inch of your mouth
Tenderly lip locked embrace
I go deep and then shallow
Imitating the motion of love
We start to open our eyes
Our lips still parted, breath deep and swallow
I kiss your ears, your neck
Kissing ever so tender
We feel the warmth in our loins
And we kiss more and more
~ Tom Baker ~