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My Vagina Dialogue

I thought long and hard before deciding to go ahead with this post. Most of my followers are women. They follow because they must like in some way, what they read. All of the women who follow this blog have a vagina so I really shouldn’t be so worried about what people think. For those it offends, they might not read it, to those who read it, I hope you learn something.

This post is more a reaction from me to a subject that is close to my heart: self esteem. You might be familiar with earlier posts of mine and the poll I created for women. Well this is just a bit of information that made me sad so I thought I would share. This post might be considered NSFW but I really believe it is just PG-13. Still to protect myself and the innocent, the language below is explicit.

A Few Vaginal Facts

  • Only one in 10 women think that there is no shame in having discussions about the female genitals.
  • Up to 89% of women do not think their genitals are attractive, sexy or beautiful.
  • Almost half of women (47%) believe the vagina is the body part they know least about.
  • More than half (57%) of women think their genitalia is an improper size.
  • Only half of women have ever performed a self-exam of their genitals, and one-quarter (24%) has not looked at her vulva in a year or longer
  • Women perceive their genitals very differently than their spouse/partner perceives their genitals.
  • Since 2005, Google has reported a “Breakout” increase (more than 5000%) for numerous search terms and phrases related to female genital cosmetic surgery, including “labia surgery”, “labiaplasty”, vaginal rejuvenation”, “vagina surgery cost”, and many more. Note that each search independently increased by more than 5000%.
  • Since 2005, Google has reported a “Breakout” increase for numerous searches related to the notion of a “normal” vulva, including “normal labia minora”, “normal labia pictures”, “normal labia size”, “normal vulva”, and many more. Note that each search independently rose by more than 5000%.
  • In 2008 the medical group Surgicare (UK) saw a threefold increase in labiaplasty over the previous year, and inquiries rose seven fold in three years. Most women asking for the surgery were in their late teens or early 20s, though as young as 10 or 11. In almost all cases, requests came from women with completely healthy vulvas, but seeking more attractive genitals.
  • Women’s genital perceptions are significantly related to their gynecological care perceptions and intentions. (In other words, if a woman has negative perceptions about her genitals she is less likely to seek gynecological care.)
  • Among the top five questions asked to some popular sex educators is “Is my vagina normal?”

I am a very odd person. In a sea of men I would stick out like a sore thumb. I prefer natural to fake in almost everything. From food to breasts. From natural to make-up. I prefer a woman who inner beauty makes her beautiful outwardly because the inner beauty seeps out of the pores and demands people notice her outward loveliness. There are plenty of “attractive women” who have the personality of a bucking bronco and that makes them so ugly on the outside. Why do we let other people dictate to our sons and daughters how someone is supposed to look? Who died and made Hollywood, Vogue or Playboy the boss of femininity? It is passed time that we teach our children respect for themselves and respect for others again.

It’s way passed time to let them know that the color of their skin, the amount of money in their wallets, the clothes that they where or the house they live in is in now way any indication of their self worth. Every single person on this planet is special and unique and there will never be another soul like them. Everyone deserves the same amount of respect and love that the ‘pretty people’ or the ‘rich people’ or the people who don’t wear hoodies deserve. No one is better than anyone else. No not one.

Teach your friends and family. Your sons and your daughters that the way God made them is sufficient and approval from any other person is not required here. And ladies, if you want a true perspective on how your genitalia, ask any man how he feels about the subject. I guarantee he will tell you that the way God made a woman is one of the most beautiful sights to behold. Snow capped mountains, the arms of the Milky Way on a cool Winter night, the birth of a child, fresh snow fall that nobody has walked on, the crashing surf on an island paradise, and female genitalia are beautiful sights to behold.

Everybody wants to preach acceptance and tolerance of this thing and that thing. If you want to teach tolerance, it should begin at home with yourself. Learn to accept who you are first and it will be easier to accept others just the way they are.

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True Friends Get Naked With One Another

Dear Friends,

I want to get naked with some of you. Together, alone; just us two.

In my lifetime I have had numerous times when I wish I had someone to share things with. When I was way up on the mountaintop filled with happiness and when I was way way down in the valley very sad and depressed. Nobody likes feeling like that and no one wants others to feel that way either.

I’m happy to say that almost from the start of this blog I have been able to be that person for many people. The one I made public was Anne from the Philippines. All others have been private and of course will remain that way.

This post is written simply because if you ever find yourself in need of someone to talk to or someone to just listen to you, I am that person. I give good advice and I am a great listener. It does not mean everyone takes my advice and certainly not everyone agrees with my life philosophies, yet still they come.

Awhile back I received an email from a young lady who loved reading my blog but also had some issues and stopped reading it. I posted her letter and she still doesn’t read my blog as far as I know, but I do get frequent emails from her whenever she needs to talk. I get emails from people as young as 15 years old and as old as or older than me. It feels good to make new friends and be able to be there for others. Use my email address or my contact page and we can converse. If you don’t mind being naked with me according to how I defined it in the graphic below, I’m here for you.

It was mentioned once that I should start an advice blog. I just laughed!

“I was born with an enormous need for affection, and a terrible need to give it.”
Audrey Hepburn

Download and use this image as .jpg or chose the .png.

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Sexting Among Teens

This is a harmless photo of a teen in shorts with her legs open, but she is fully clothed. Would it surprise you to know that between 20 – 30 percent of teenagers with cell phones admit to sending nude photos of themselves to at least one person?

Nearly half of teens say that they have received at least one sexting message whether they expected it or not.

An adult who sends provocative or nude images of him/her self to a minor is a crime. An adult who sends or receives naked images of minors has committed a crime. It is considered child pornography and these crimes are felonies. The people caught doing this type of activity are prosecuted and if convicted added to the sex offender registry.

For teenagers it is much the same although in some cases a teen’s minor status can be waived and they can be judged as an adult. This could mean real jail time.

We really need to teach our children to respect themselves and others as well. There is nothing wrong with being modest and nothing wrong at all with waiting until marriage to reveal yourself to your spouse as the treasure you are. April waited and she made me wait too (of course). Someone who respects themself, their privacy and their body might not be so quick to undress for the camera.

Electronic images have an eternal shelf life. The images you take today might be on the internet a hundred years from now. Google indexes millions of pages and if you know of a site no longer on the internet, you can pay Google to research it and find those pages for you (at a cost), but my point is; if it was posted twenty years ago it is still somewhere out there. Images uploaded today will be there when your children are applying and not getting those jobs they want. Webcams, digital cameras or cell phone cameras. Vanessa Hudgens, Pamela Anderson, Britney Spears all found out the hard way that what is done in private doesn’t always stay private.

It might seem cool at the time but relationships don’t always last forever. Spiteful and bitter ex boyfriends or girlfriends can and will get back at you by texting or emailing those very same nude images to anyone on the planet.

One girl committed suicide after her ex sext the entire student body of their high school the nude images he had of her.

Technology carries with it the ease of being provocative or naughty if you want to. What goes on between consenting adults I suppose is their business. What our children are doing might wind up being everybody’s if everyone who has a stake (parents), don’t do something about it now. Have you talked to your kids about drugs, drinking, or anything yet? This is a good place to start if you haven’t already.

Check the cell phone’s history. Check deleted computer files. Do whatever you have to to protect your children, even from themselves. Time is of the utmost. Here is the latest in sexting jargon.

As always, this is just my opinion. What do you think? Whether you have children or not. Whether you are a teenager or an adult. I’m eager to hear.

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